The following is a hypothetical letter. I wrote it myself as though my sister has written it to me 26 years from now on my birthday. I wrote it as an exercise for a Circle of transitioning Women led by Circle Tender, Susan Lucci that I am a part of. The assignment was to imagine a celebration near the end of your life and ask some of the guests to speak on your behalf about your life and how you fulfilled your “Life’s Desires”. In light of the issues our world is facing in the NOW this was very therapeutic for me. Here is the hypothetical letter from my sister:
Happy Birthday Pam! Can you believe that you are 80 years old and I am just a couple of weeks from being 79? Who would have thought this is how the world would be in 2042? Oh yeah, you would have! You always believed and you were right, that the world and the humans living here would begin to transform and shift when we were in our early 50’s. That we could overcome the issues of poverty and climate change during our lifetime. I always loved calling you on the phone, (remember those crazy old devices necessary to communicate?) and hearing about the books you were reading about the Unity Consciousness and our Higher Selves. And that ET’s are Us!
Yes, I remember when you were younger that you would get frustrated and discouraged that you weren’t sure how to bring your value and implement your desires in the world. And you were disappointed that your work didn’t really support yourself. That you always had to rely on your husband’s income for the survival of your family. But remember, that was back when we had the old money and banking system. You were one of the few who believed we could find a better way to “survive”. Oh yeah, not survive, but THRIVE and flourish. And that abundance was a “basic right” that All Humans were born to on our planet Earth. And you were correct. Just see how fast that concept came to be accepted and implemented? And your energy, faith, and creative vision were a part of our collective ascension into this new flourishing life for ALL. You helped others SEE that this was possible. You helped me see it, even though it meant I had to transform my own business and livelihood away from helping people file their annual income tax returns. (And pay the taxes! Oh, remember how horrible it was for people to have to do that every year?) The fact that there are so few people suffering and “in need” now, and that we no longer pay for WAR and military expenses as a nation has really made it so much easier for people. And I much preferred helping people decide what to do with their abundance and decide how to best share their wealth and “pay it forward” as they used to say!
Oh, and remember that summer evening under the stars when our children were young and we were sitting around the bonfire in my backyard? The kids were running around in the dark playing on their “walkie-talkie radios” (Talk about old-time communications!) You pretended to talk to them like an alien from “Planet Micro-Brew”. A few years later micro-breweries were everywhere! And then a few years after that the Earth made peaceful and mutually beneficial contact with Advanced Life out in the Universe. It was like you could SEE it that night looking out at the far away stars above our fire. You also had a way of looking into the Flames of the Fire for “Life’s Answers”, too.
I thank you so much for being my older sister, my friend, guide, mentor and visionary. You’ve always been there when I’ve needed you. It’s so nice now to be psychically connected so that we don’t need to worry about the phone to communicate anymore. Now, whenever we need to we can hear, feel and KNOW how much the Other One cares and loves us. Even when we are apart. Oh yeah, there is no such thing as “apart”. We are each our individual spark of the Unity that is Life. Thank you for making the Soul Contract to be the spark that guided me into this life with you in it. As you Know, I love you.
Your Sister, B~
Note: I went searching in my gift card pile for the perfect card to imagine having this letter written on and I found this. The artwork is by Helena Nelson-Reed. The Synchronicity of this card’s message goes beyond “perfect” to DIVINE!
I believe every book contains a lesson and we are drawn to the lessons we need to learn. I can learn a lesson from a book written by a comedian that is read by several hundred people or from the Bible the most read book ever. (See Shame: Part One) But I believe that the Bible has been read by more people for the reason that it must hold clues that are needed by more people in order to learn and evolve. The story of the Garden of Eden in the book of Genesis holds the keys to our fateful beginnings whether you look at it as “fact” or as mythic archetypal lore. I also believe it holds the keys to our collective (mother earth) healing and our return to Paradise.
Well, as I’ve gone further into the story of the Garden of Eden I’ve stumbled into the story of Lilith who in a brief mention in Genesis is a female figure who was created from the dirt like Adam. Because she was created the same way as Adam she saw herself as an equal to Adam which did not please him. So she was either “banished” (or perhaps escaped on her own) “to the East”. Some versions of the story turn her into the water of the river or a willow tree. And she is also symbolized by an owl. Many versions over the centuries have “demonized” her. Eve on the other hand was created from Adam’s rib and therefore was not his equal, but was there to be his “help-mate”. And as most of you know she tempted Adam with the forbidden fruit which meant that Adam and Eve then realized they were “naked” and also “ashamed” of their sin.
As I interpret this tale I see an Adam who wanted someone to love and be his partner. His version of “love” was not fulfilled by Lilith as she was not willing to “hold” his shadows (shame). She wanted to be responsible to her-self and leave Adam to be responsible for his-self. In comes Eve who in her quest to be “all loving” is willing to be the one to bear the weight of shame for Man. This to Adam feels like “true love”. He can prove his love to her by taking control and she can prove her love to him by submission to his love and willingness to overlook his shortcomings. They both think this seems “unconditional” but in reality this love contains a great many “conditions”.
Now I’ll get personal. (Read this next section as though I have both an inner Eve and inner Lilith). I mentioned in my last post that this month of April has brought me to a time of reflecting on my own relationships. Two years ago, April 2014 I came to a moment in time when my inner “Lilith” expressed herself. I had reached a limit to “how much I could bear”. My “Adam” was projecting his wounds onto my inner “Eve”. She had for many years (in an attempt at unconditional love) been willing to let the little digs slide along with the covert (and sometime overt) attempts to control her. She knew on some level her “Adam” loved her and didn’t believe the things he said. But, my “Lilith” finally woke up and showed me that living with this was not “love” in the highest sense. My “Adam” also knew on some level that he was not acting “loving” and that continued a cycle of feeling “less than worthy” of love from anyone, especially his “Eve”. This became a never ending circle of shame and projection. So, out comes my “Lilith”. On Easter Sunday of 2014 she said good-bye and walked away(with the prayer, “forgive them for they know not what they do”). I (as Lilith) was finally able to leave this unhealthy relationship because I came to the decision from a place of love and wanting the best for both my “Adam” and my “Eve”. My “Lilith” had no plans to go back, she wanted respect, independence and equality. But with several days of reflection my Adam reached out. A phone call. A conversation. And this is where the space for healing came in. My Lilith came back. And that is where we leave the story of the Garden of Eden and look toward a future Paradise.
But first I must share a bit more of my reflections. Not just over what healing has occurred over the last two years and that process, but further back to the roots of my personal “Eden”. I have a recollection of complaining as a child about my older brother “picking on me”. He was almost 6 years older than me and much bigger and stronger. I was told something to the effect of “that is the only way he knows how to show you attention (love)”. Oh, to my young mind, that made sense. Because surely no one who loves you would hurt you, unless they didn’t know how to show you real love. And in that moment my inner “Eve” entered and I was willing to hold both his shame and mine, because of course I loved him.
When “Lilith” returns (in my personal story) she doesn’t condone the behaviors of Adam or of Eve for that matter. She forgives them and gives new understanding and strength to their love, helping them to heal their misunderstood (wounded and immature) understanding of love. Ok, in my original thoughts about my personal story I wanted to believe that my inner “Lilith” had the strength to return on her own. Upon further reflection I have come to realize she did some transformation during her time away. Jesus“returned” as his “Christed” self. I now think that my “Lilith” returned as her more evolved and “Christened” self. (Maybe the reason I left during the Easter season to return a few days later???) I have found that I am able to carry a new “vibration” over the last two years. My “Adam” can and does too. When I feel either of us slipping into old patterns and behaviors I pull up an image in my mind of a large fierce bird sitting on my shoulder. The energy shifts. My boundary is respected, his emotions are appropriately expressed. I had thought that this bird was a hawk, but now that I have gone into this story I see it is probably the Owl, the symbol of Lilith. An Owl is fierce like a Hawk, but has the additional attribute of Wisdom. (Note: I by no means claim to be completely “evolved”, but I am aware that my life has transformed and new levels of understanding and wisdom have shown up rapidly once I walked through the fear of being “banished” and claimed my personal power.)
In the last few decades Lilith has become a symbol of feminism. But, I think that version of feminism is still missing a piece and that is the reason feminism isn’t the complete “medicine” for this old sick world (Patriarchy). According to the Gene Keys book by Richard Rudd, the “Opening of the Third Seal” occurs through Universal Love. “This seal heals the human wound of shame. And it is out of this feeling of deep shame that the whole world of hierarchy and competitiveness has come about. “ I feel that the key to unconditional and universal love is not just through the balancing of the masculine and feminine (Adam and Lilith as equals) as many have in recent years proclaimed, but rather in healing the relationship of all three archetypes: Adam, Eve and Lilith. We all yearn for the autonomy, strength and independence of Lilith, but fear the consequences. Can we survive on our own? Will we be lonely? (I know those thoughts went through my mind when I walked out). But the truth is we do not need to live alone as Lilith did in the original story. We can be strong individuals within unconditionally loving relationships. It also doesn’t require we make a choice between Lilith and Eve. The “Evolved” and “Christened” Lilith must return and embrace the Shadow of Adam and Eve’s shame. She has the strength to transmute that immature version of love and transform the relationship. It takes effort, understanding and the Wisdom and Strength of an Owl. But if we are to heal our Collective, this is where the answers lie. Invite your “Lilith” back home. Make that call, open that dialog. You may find she can now embrace Eve (and Adam), that she has Eve-olved. You many find she has the Universal Christ Love within her now to allow you to let go of your shame in being who you truly are. You are not a victim. You have the power within yourself to heal your original wounds, with the Faith that you will be Loved Unconditionally for the Unique and Divine Spark within you. The health of one Cell affects the health of the Collective, micro to macro.
Much gratitude to all of you who witness my story , by sharing this without “shame” I further my personal growth and healing. I dream that I’ll see you soon in Paradise…..until then enjoy my art process. The Stitches in Time give me plenty of time to contemplate this Story and the Lessons it contains.
Eggers lays out a story which refers to mythology, religion and anecdote to explain how we have created the “Domination System” in our current world. She explains how this current system is the root of the troubles we face as a society and as a world. She describes a process of how that old system can be transformed. Much of her story resonates with my personal path. My “wounds” and my healing path that have led me to my own revelations. I have an inner knowing that my healing is important as it will also assist in healing the Collective. I believe we are all responsible for our own healing because it is necessary for the Whole. This is the Way we influence the Collective Consciousness, at some point reaching the tipping point and shifting the Whole. She inspires (me) us to find our own places to use our personal medicine to heal the issues we see hurting the world. I believe that is what has brought me to “A Stitch In Time Saves” as my personal medicine for the world. (Although I am still very much on the first steps of the path to how this may play out in healing the issues I see in the world!)
So, how am I currently seeing this play out in my life? Well, yesterday I rode my bike to my studio from home and was giving some thought to the discussion from a meeting of artists/gallery owners that I had attended the evening before. We are working to put together an art exhibit for this fairly new gallery to open in a little over a month. Our show title is tentatively “He Said : She Said”. The gallery had some interesting artwork currently on display with guns as the subject matter. I was thinking how outside my comfort zone working with that subject matter would be for me. Living near the west-side of Chicago has really made me very aware of the issue of gun violence over the last couple of decades. And this is “worlds” away from my upbringing in rural Michigan and the use of guns for hunting and sport.
I reflected on these thoughts during my bike ride and I had a vision of a gun that would follow the bullet as it wounds with a needle and thread that would immediately “heal” the damage that the gun created. Or perhaps it was some sort of sewing machine in the shape of a gun that could both shoot and stitch. Anyway, I got into my studio and I drew this sketch (today I added the watercolor paints to it).
I titled it “The Seam Stress 2016” – Designed to mend wounds as soon as they are created. If guns must continue to remain “legal” then we must create different guns. (I’m still not sure if this will lead me to create a more complete work of art with this subject for the exhibit!)
Today as I was eating my lunch at home I glanced at yesterday’s New York Times Business Section lying next to me. I noticed the headline of an article titled “In Rwanda, Blood Delivered by Drone”. I immediately assumed this was about drone weaponry and how they were being used to kill (bring blood). In my opinion, drone weapons remove the “human” connection making it even easier to kill without conscience. But no, this article was about a small group of engineers near Half Moon Bay, California (I’m not making that up!) who have designed and are launching small fixed-wing drones that can carry medical supplies to remote locations almost 40 miles away. This start-up called Zipline, plans to begin operating a service with these drones for the government of Rwanda in July. “The new drone system will initially be capable of making 50 to 150 daily deliveries of blood and emergency medicine to Rwanda’s 21 transfusing facilities, mostly hospitals…”
Well, it may be just me, but I see this as an example of our weapons being “created different”. And as Eggers has described it is happening “from the bottom up”. We can no longer look for our solutions to come from our so called leaders, from the top down. We must create our own solutions and start putting them in place when and where we see the opportunities. She calls this being a Passionate Warrior, embracing the shadow side and incorporating it into what we transform our World to be.
In order to create this change I believe that first, we must be able to envision these solutions. (Eggers talks about the Seer) I see this as the role of the artist and the dreamer. So, that is where I will continue to play out my part. Sketching and dreaming of solutions, no matter how crazy or impossible….a sewing machine that can shoot and mend? A gun that stitches closed the wound it creates??? Maybe someday. Or just as soon as someone sees my Vision for it.